Talking About School Shootings
Talking about school shootings with your child is probably the last thing you thought you would have to do as a parent. Sadly, the discussion is a reality in America.
So how do you do it in a manner that will be productive? We’ve got a few tips for you.
First, you need to process this on your own. You don’t want to have an initial knee-jerk reaction, in front of your kids, if you don’t have to. While it is important to fully process your emotions, doing so in front of your child may cause trauma. If possible, you want to avoid this.
Secondly, you want to keep in mind your child’s daily routine and atmosphere. Is there a possibility they could hear about it on their own? What are their surroundings? With the abundance of TV’s, cell phones, and tablets, limiting screen time might be in order.
Thirdly, what is their age? This can shape the conversation. Younger children may need more care. Talking about it with you first, is generally optimal. It can provide a safety net for the child, possibly making it less traumatic.
How to Start Talking
You may want to start by asking if they have heard anything about what happened. If so, ask them to tell you what they heard and how that makes them feel. It is important to be loving and to allow the child to express their feelings. Work on some answers to questions the child may have, in advance. This will help create a feeling of security for both of you.
Create a family plan with your child, so everyone knows where to go should a crisis occur. Plans during crisis can give a feeling of security in an anxiety filled situation. They can help with focus and critical thinking when needed most. Discuss the plan several times so it is easily called to memory by all.
Help your child find the positive in a time of crisis. As you often hear, look for the helpers. This will help everyone process their emotions and move forward in a more stable emotional state.
Lastly, you don’t have to go at it alone. Professionals, such as the staff at Crossing Bridges Counseling, are available to help you and your children process and deal with tragedies like these. Learning to cope with life’s harsh realities, especially at an early age, are helpful throughout a lifetime.
We are here to help. Contact us today.